OCD and MCS
I sound like a rapper……y’know the OPP one. Did I just get blank looks? Ah well…….
OCD .. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I suspect No.1 has it. Ever since we moved to this place, I have found that he is getting more anxious in getting things right in the house. I sorta noticed it when we were in KL, but it was fairly mild. I just thought he was a neat kind of person. He would make his bed everymorning, ensuring that his blanket covered his entire bed properly. No mess in his room, that kind of thing.
When we moved here, I noticed that he would re-arrange all our slippers and shoes and put them properly.
Then, he would arrange all our placemats on the dining table properly and the tissue box MUST be in the center.
So, everytime he returns from school, he’d first go to all our rooms, and make our beds. He would make every single bed properly. Anything that is not supposed to be in the room, he’d throw it out. Then, he go to the dining table and push all the chairs in, and ensure all the placemats are placed properly. Even when I ask him to set the forks n spoons, he’d do it with precision. Mind you, he’s only 5!
I’m a lil worried because I’m wondering if it’s an environmental factor (because we moved so many times, and with the new baby and all), or it’s inborn. I checked online and there are two schools of thought. But, both schools of thought say that it’s treatable.
Sigh…. I just wonder if I’m ignoring him so much that it’s developed to this stage or what! I find he’s also quite sensitive nowadays and would get truly upset when small lil things don’t go his way. Like the other day, his Jap Slippers broke and it was as if, his dog died! He refused to let me buy a new one, he refused for me to throw his old one away…..! It was very upsetting for him…and me to see him so disraught over a cheap pair of slippers!
And the No.2? He’s going thru Middle Child Syndrome. Poor kid. He’s soooo sticky. He gets really upset when I’m not around. He sticks to me like glue when I’m feeding No.3. I’m feeling all torn up inside.
Mr.T asked me this afternoon, if it would have been better to have just one kid. I replied, it’s hard to go back to one kid now…now that I know how much ‘fun’ I’m having with three! But, I feel so exhausted everynight! I just am so thankful that I have the night to relax….putting them early to bed, has been a lifesaver for me……..
Now..I have to sort out all these issues with No.1 and No.2…………. haiz……
mott,
I am not in the position to advise you about this and that as I don’t have a kid myself. I just wanna say that don’t give your kids and yourself too much pressure. I sincerely hope that both your no.1 and no.2 will be better soon.
Sigh…thanks Kok. I think I know what you mean. As it is, I already close my eyes on a lot of things since I cannot handle so many things, but this issue with No.1 is deeper than I think it is. Must find the root cause of it..and help him.
Comment by Kok — May 10, 2008 @ 1:57 pm
Happy Mother’s Day ..!
Comment by Mama BoK — May 10, 2008 @ 7:59 pm
it is difficult to be parents. our kids too messy, we worry. too neat also worry.
there’s a lot of things happening in your lives right now and kids are really sensitive to changes. hope things get better soon.
happi mommi day
Comment by Shooi — May 11, 2008 @ 4:57 am
Mott,
I’ll keep you in my prayers!:)
At the mean time, wish you a Happy Mother’s Day!:)
Comment by Kok — May 11, 2008 @ 9:42 am
Happy Mommy’s Day to you
Hey, your No. 1 can come stay with me….cos i am OCD too 
Comment by mommy to chumsy — May 11, 2008 @ 1:51 pm
Hugss Happy Mother’s Day to you.
Could the moving be one of the causes to #1’s problem? or his way of trying to find an order in his life since he is trying to adjust to being a big brother and the moving?? Just my random guess. Nevertheless, sure hope you will solutions and answers.
Comment by WMD — May 11, 2008 @ 3:36 pm
he may be insecure with the big moves and also sharing his parents with two other brothers, like what you said. he may need more reassurance and TLC but that means you definitely have to spend one on one time with him, even if it’s just reading a book, just with him, for 10 minutes a day, or something he enjoys.
check with his class teacher, see if she has spotted anything in him. hope all goes well…
Comment by Sweetpea — May 11, 2008 @ 11:43 pm
I agree with your reply to kok…I too close my eyes to lots of things coz I cannot handle so many things. I have even been hoping that my no.2’s cough/flu will get better on its own…baaad mommy. Housework is just what I can do during baby’s nap times. I am also worried abt my no.1 as she rarely talks in kindy class until teacher had to spank her bottom o_O. I am lost as to what to do as she talks really well at home and at the babysitter’s. And she just overcame her nailbiting after one year(which I think was due to 1st time going to kindy). Kids are very sensitive to changes I suppose…
Comment by szuming — May 12, 2008 @ 3:49 am
oik! selamat hari ibu! i datang lambat..baru baliks from kk yesterday
Comment by sasha — May 12, 2008 @ 4:59 am
Imagine back in our grandma days..7-12 kids. Have you seek doc’s help for JR?
Comment by Vien — May 12, 2008 @ 6:22 am
My son’s a bit like that too. Previously when he ate, he would eat so carefully so that not a crumb would drop on the table. If it did, he would get so upset. And he would wake me up in the middle of the night to ask me to rearrange his blanket for him because it is so “messy”. Anyway, I think he has outgrown most of this now, especially the no mess eating part tho he still wakes me up at night to tell me that his blanket is “messy”. Hopefully your boy grows out of his need to be neat too. Though its hard for you to pay attention to him now because of No3 who needs the most attention at this point, maybe its just his way of dealing with so many changes ,moving, new baby, etc all at one time.
Comment by mumsgather — May 13, 2008 @ 2:29 am