A typical week for me..
Heheh..while that may be a typical day for me…
A typical week for me actually means, I have my mini-breakdowns an average of 2-3 times. In the beginning, it was 5-6 times. Yes..that’s almost everyday. I think mostly, it was because all three kids were sick and well, vomitting, diarrhea and bed-wetting have their after-effects. Laundry needs to be done. Carpets/Floor needs to be cleaned. Sofas need to be .. well, wiped. So..yea, I really had many meltdowns then. Now the boys are scared of simply vomitting. They warn each other, vomit in the bowl or toilet..not the carpet or floor!
So…I found that I needed to have a strict schedule to keep me intact. I know…a real control freak. But without it, I would have broken down into many pieces and my boys would be the ones suffering.
Initially, I broke down in front of my boys. They’d be stunned…but bless, their lil hearts, they would comfort me after awhile. They would sit quietly with me, No.1 would hold my hand and sayang my back. No.2 would bend down, with his big big eyes, trying to find mine. Both saying, "It’s ok Ma… we sayang you".
Now… I try not to do it in front of them. It’s not fair to them, I guess.
Sigh..and you know what? This is only just a fraction of how a single mother feels. I’m sure all single mothers out there have a tougher time. That’s why I really salute Michael Phelp’s mom. Now, that’s a wonder woman!
*BIG HUGS* You are a great mommy, Mott
Comment by mommy to chumsy — October 13, 2008 @ 1:03 pm
Mott,
Your kids are just great! I’m sure they understand that they have an awesome mum!
Mott, I give you this… “susah-susah dahulu, senang-senang kemudian”. Hang on there!:)
Take care, mott. Don’t worry about bloghopping and leaving comment. Take those time to rest.
Comment by Kok — October 13, 2008 @ 7:29 pm
*hugs hugs*
Comment by rachel — October 14, 2008 @ 3:24 am
Truly understand…the whole schedule, control, break-down and all. If one thing goes out, everything will fall like domino. I guess, for me, if I lax a bit, I can still remedy the situation with 1 kid but with 3 and alone (for now), it’s NOT so easy. You are doin’ great! psst…once you graduate from 3 kids, 4th one should be piece of cake la hor!! *runs*
Comment by We sayang you too.. — October 14, 2008 @ 3:44 am
oh mott, *hugs* it must be hard to shoulder everything. but i think your boys will be able to comphrehend it after seeing you in this state. kids will understand, they just couldn’t cannot control their emotions. but they are angels too, learning to warn each other this way. do those that need immediate attention and put of the others for tomorrow. wish i could run over and help you out..
Comment by constance — October 14, 2008 @ 10:44 am
hats off to all amazing mommies…and you’re definitely one of them.
Comment by kerp — October 14, 2008 @ 5:52 pm
i oso salute you apa…. glad that the kids are great…
hope u take care.. keep cool ok…
Comment by janicepa — October 15, 2008 @ 6:38 am
I really don’t know how you cope with 3 kids with no maid. Hats off to you. I’d break down too if I were you, big time break down and go cuckoo too haha!
Comment by health freak — October 17, 2008 @ 9:25 am