A Compromise
Now, by now, you know I’m a super practical person. If there was a line between A to Z, I just go across it. I won’t bother with C, G or X. If it works, I say, don’t break it. I often don’t buy stuff, because it just collects dusts. Yes, that means, decorating your home with ornaments, vases and lil trinkets. It’s just not me. Give me pots, pans and dishes that can be stored away neatly.
So, this happy balance in me, is sometimes rocked by my other half. He has the craziest ideas sometimes, and I must admit, they do work sometimes.
And so there is obsession with Feng Shui. Yes, my husband. He’s not into the Lilian Too type, where you buy a frog and place it in the south-east wing of your house, and it will make you tons of money. Nobody told you it’d be in rupiah. He’s more into the what’s the best direction for each person type Feng Shui. The positions we sleep in. The positions we enter the house in.
For years, I’ve indulged him. When we were renovating, I allowed him to change the directions of doors and sleeping positions, so, it’ll all suit us. To me, as long as I can walk through that door, yes, I’m ok.
Today, yes, this morning, he tells me I must enter the home, using a rarely used door. This door is between my living area and backyard. I normally go through the kitchen. This said door, is permanently locked, and rightly so, as there is no point entering through it!
But, its’ said to be my ‘best’ position.
So, I made some noise. He retorted by saying, I was not even willing to try this idea.
I told him, if I do that, will I win the lottery?
He confidently says, "YES!"
"You’ll have a 30% chance!".
Errr..yea, right! How about a 100% chance?!
He claims I’d be less stress, if I at least tried it out for 1 month.
I’m like, "If I do try it out for one month (this month)…OF COURSE I’D BE LESS STRESS!!! I’D HAVE A HOME TO MYSELF!"
What nonsense!!!!
I argued with him, on HOW impractical it is for me to go one big round from the living room to the kitchen, especially if I have a tot, and heavy bags of groceries to carry! And..let’s talk about laundry! And what if there’s a cooking emergency? I can’t dash straight into my kitchen? I’d have to go through the living area?
WHAT CRAP!
But you know what? This is a marriage. A marriage where we agreed to compromise and try out things.
And..in the end, I told him. Fine, I will go through this silly door for ONE MONTH. Even though, I’ve turned out OK, without the help of fengshui for the last 20odd years. I will see if it really helps me or not.
I seriously doubt it..but for love, I will humor him. It makes him happy. And me, running big circles.
Hmph.
What is the biggest thing you’ve compromised with your spouse with?
I don’t think any part of the Fengshui is actually to create trouble for you
Feng Shui is about balance
Thus if it makes thing more difficult, forget it
It won’t bring any benefit
Comment by yenjai.net — October 23, 2009 @ 4:57 am
this is so cute la…we do believe in directions too, but as long it does not clash, so we kinda longgar with fengshui requirement. tired to follow everything strictly hor…
Comment by chinnee — October 23, 2009 @ 6:35 am
hahaahahaha…good luck mott
my biggest compromise? hmm..gotta be switching on the aircond every night though my nose cannot take it. I would wear a light sweater and long pants to bed to keep me warm.
Comment by mommy to chumsy — October 23, 2009 @ 7:50 am
aiyo..no practical at all…………..
what if u forgot n accidentally went into the kitchen the other way round or ur kids? snap a photo of hubby reaction..
Comment by rachel — October 23, 2009 @ 8:06 am
Talking about feng shui, my hubs once bought a RM1k beagle dog just becoz the feng shui loh said good wor. I think it’s crap. Our house was flooded and that poor beagle was almost washed away. That poor fler was depressed becoz no one had time for him. After less than a year, we gave him up for adoption! Good feng shui? My hubs’ pocket got a BIG hole becoz of that dog!
Comment by health freak — October 23, 2009 @ 10:03 am
Yeah, some feng shui masters ‘encourage’ renovation every few years. Unless your life is depressed and difficult, otherwise why bother to change it?? But do remember to blog about the changes of your life after A MONTH of that big ’round’…would LOVE to know the changes..maybe the feng shui master know that you want to be slim…kekeke
Comment by blinka.li — October 28, 2009 @ 6:30 am
I’m a feng shui believer though not the Lillian Too type. I’m more incline towards Joey Yap’s traditional stuff but deco in the house for feng shui is a No No. We just occassionally follow some tips and what we don’t know wouldn’t hurt
Anyway, you are right. It’s about compromise. Look positively. He’s requesting you to do the runaround (LOL!) as it is supposed to be good for you. YOU!!! He’s thinking of youlah! I would try it out for a month and at the very least, you get a little workout (not that you need it).
P.S. Your anti-spam numbers are making my eyes blur
Comment by Immomsdaughter — October 29, 2009 @ 12:01 am
Lucky for me my Hubby is so NOT into stuff like this. But I’ve got an uncle who is a feng shui master - I do accept his suggestions IF they are practical.
My biggest compromise with Hubby? Keeping the home neat and tidy LOL
Comment by KittyCat — October 29, 2009 @ 8:34 pm
compromise? muahahahhaha you know all edi.
and yes yr anti spam thinggy reall ymaking me dizzy
Comment by sasha — November 4, 2009 @ 1:00 am